^Forgive ^Reconcile ~forgiveness~ ~unsnarl~

1. ^Try to ^Seek a ~time-and-place~ for our ~BEST~ ~love~.
2. ^Feel its ~quiet~ to ^Remember ^Why it ~hurt~ us.
3. ^Feel its ~peace~ to ^Remember ^How it ~hurt~ others.
4. ^Go to the ~hurt~ to ^Magnify our ^Sorrow to others about it peacefully, unconditionally and ^Adequately in ~respect~ so that we may ~hope~ to ^Receive also.
5. ^Care to ^Try ^Again to ^Return to our ~BEST~ ~love~.
6. ^When any ~excess~ of ~emotion~ stirs us to ^Avoid this in whole or ~part~, ~avoid~ it as such for ~now~.
7. ^When we ~feel~ ~SICK~ about either ~forgiveness~ or the ~hurt~ from which we may have ^Need to do it, ~first~ (re-)^Gain our ~strength~ and then, as needed ~try~ to ^Counsel about it ~regularly~ and ~slow~ until it is ~enough~. Do so with ~respect~ for ourselves and others and in ~privacy~ to the situation.

^Forgive is a ^Super mode of ^Function to ^Sustain our ^Love.  Hmmm.  Only one ~problem~.  For ^Simple wounds, we are probably ~still~ ~healthy~ so to ^Find ~love~ ^Again is not difficult with ^Practice.  But for deep or ^Complex wounds, or wounds that we ^Receive ^When ~SICK~, this ^Concept departs like ~water~ on concrete in the hot sun.  ^What we once knew becomes just a word.  And its definition becomes a bunch of nonsense.  Any ~abuse~ may cause many of the ~BEST~ concepts to ^Become just words.  Sometimes we ^Notice this ~lack~ and can confront this depth of suffering and at other times we don't even ~know~ the ~hollow~ in our ^Mind which does ~now~ ~refuse~ to shine. 

As I said, after a heavy or inescapable burden of ~abuse~ we ~win-or-lose~ our ~ability~ to ^Forgive.  At times this ~loss~ is ~long-term~.  I ^Wish it was ^Okay. 

This ^Result from ~abuse~ is ^Normal.  But can anyone ~tell~ me ~why~ ~abuse~ is ^Normal?  With deep ~regret~, we can ^Accept the ~truth~ of it; though its ~presence~ we cannot except.  Both we ^Who ^Offend and others for sake of ~survival~ may ^Tend to suffer this ~loss~, as though ~force~ of one ~mind~ upon another flattens both in the dimension of ^What is perhaps its most ~beautiful~ ~now~ or in potential.  Just as there is ~no~ recipe to ^Love ~properly~, ^How could we ever seriously ^Believe a ~mind~ could ^Receive ~harm~ thusly and ^Still have a reasonable and knowable ~PATH~ to ^Recover?  Without ~forgiveness~ we cannot ~fail~ ~properly~ and without ~fail~ we cannot ^Heal.  I ^Wish I was ^Okay. 

For those ^Who have a ~love~ to ^Give, ~forgiveness~ is the ~first~ and foremost ~foundation~ to ^Maintain.  For ~BEST~ ~results~, freely ~win-or-lose~ any ~chance~ for ~forgiveness~ in ~privacy~ and ~respect~ to every ^Mind in our purview.  ^Forgiveness is a ^Concept of concepts of concepts, and I am convinced it is second only to ^Love.  It is so hard to define ~well~.  ^Please ^Forgive my ~lack~ in providing these descriptions. 

As soon as we ^Find or ^Hope that we can, ^Try.  ^Forgive ^First and ^Last, such as in the morning or evening or at the ~start~ or ~end~ of any activity that may ^Need us to ^Try. 

^When we have a ~roadblock~ to ~forgiveness~, ^Try to ^Focus on ^What we can ^Accept and ^Where we cannot ^Accept it, ^Try to ^Ignore it.  A ^MESS ensues but ^Remember it is our ~immunity~ at ^Play which means there is ~hope~.  After ~all~, we once were little beans ~who~ grew up in remarkable and mysterious ways.  It's not as though the instructions to ^Grow from beans were unwritten by the ~hurt~.  Yet it can ^Feel as such and far worse.  ^When we have felt it, it ~is-what-it-is~.  ^Long-term.  ^Okay?  And it's ^Okay too ^When we haven't experienced that.  And I ^Hope many of us ^Never experience that depth of ~needless~ suffering. 

Once we have that experience to any degree, we may ^Look and ^Wait for a ^Change in times of ~strength~, and ^Trust our ~immunity~ long ~enough~ to have ~hope~ once ^Again.  Perhaps the ~BEST~ is ~still~ in us waiting to ^Be born out as before.  ^Please ^Believe it. 

^When others have a ~roadblock~ to ~forgiveness~, in ~compassion~ of a ~buddy~ to them we may ^Imagine while ~STRONG~ ~what~ their ^Mind once was: a ~beautiful~ meadow, a mountain of ~strength~, a mighty river with many gentle streams and a ~light~ to others; delightful in so so many ways.  The ~BEST~ is ~still~ in there.  ^Please ^Believe it.  Do to others as though they were the ~BEST~ they once were or the ~BEST~ they may yet ^Be.  ^Believe the ~BEST~.  Others as ~part~ of their healing may ^Need us to ^See ~good~ in them with an unshakeable conviction irrespective of ~all~ ~evil~ ~now~ ~found~ in them or around them.  Once we can ^See it, ^Remember to ^Share.  And ^Please ^Share ~now~, without ~force~ and ~slow~. 

We should ^Share only with ~humility~ and ~respect~ and anytime it is ~prudent~ and in ~self-control~.  ^Please dare to ^Help ~one-another~ and to ^Forgive as ~well~ as we can, even ^When ^All we can do is to do so with our eyes shut and hands ~low~.  ^Accept a ^Free ^Offer of nourishment, of necessary comforts and of visits in ~gratitude~ of a ~prudent~ ~mind~.  ^Likewise, ^Make a ^Free ^Offer of our ~food~ and ~drink~, of our ~home~ and comforts and of our support and friendship.  As we endeavor to it, ^Seek ~harmony~ in ~how~ we ^Share. 

Anytime with caution as to the nature of the ^Need. 

^When in ~harmony~ to ~surprise~. 

As a ^Buddy, ^When we ^Notice a ~lack~ or ~excess~ of ~sorrow~, we may ^Forgive and ^Sorrow with ~one-another~ in a ^Space of ~trust~. 

Anytime in ~motivation~ to ^Restore.  Anytime in ~focus~ of ~health~ or ~strength~ within our ~life~. 

To ^Oppose ~lack~ or ~excess~ of ~opposition~. 

Anytime in ^Simple ^Respect to ^Forgive although in ~presence~ of ^Anger, ^Fear, ^Guilt or ^Desire.  For ~example~, ^Forgiveness does not ^Mask our ~anger~.  Yet, ^Forgiveness may ^Help ourselves or others to endure ~anger~ until we can ^Heal from it. 

Do so only ^When in ~harmony~ to ^Surprise, ^Hate or ^Happiness.  For ~example~, we don't ^Want to ^Forgive ^When we ^Feel ~surprise~ regarding ~one-another~ or our environment.  Yet once we ^Restore ~harmony~, we may ^Forgive freely as means to alleviate the ^Emotion.  We ^Mask next ~steps~ ^When we incautiously ^Forgive irrespective of ^What we ^Feel.  That's ^Okay!  We can ^Overcome to do ^Better.