^Forgive ^Reconcile ~forgiveness~ ~unsnarl~

1. ^Try to ^Seek a ~time-and-place~ for our ^BEST ~love~. 
2. ^Feel its ~quiet~ to ^Remember ^Where that ^Hurt us. 
3. ^Feel its ~peace~ to ^Consider ^How we ^Hurt others. 
4. ^Go to the ~hurt~ to ^Magnify our ~sorrow~ to others about it peacefully, unconditionally and ^Adequately in ~respect~ so that we may ^Hope to ^Receive also. 
5. ^Care to ^Try ^Again to ^Return to our ^BEST ~love~. 
6. ^When any ~excess~ of ~emotion~ stirs us to ^Avoid this in ~whole~ or ~part~, ^Avoid it ~as~ ^Such for ^Now. 
7. ^When we ^Feel ~SICK~ about either ~forgiveness~ or the ~hurt~ from which we may ^Need to do it, ^First (re-)^Gain our ~strength~.  Next, in ~accord~ to our ~need~ for it, ^Try to ^Counsel about it ^Regularly and ^Slowly until it is ~enough~.  ^Maximize ~respect~ to ourselves and others in ~privacy~ to the situation. 

^Forgive is a ^Super mode of ^Function and a mode of ^Refresh.  It is a ~mechanism~ to ^Refresh our ~mind~ for ^Normal ~restore~ within ourselves and, to others and our world.  Most especially, it is a ~mechanism~ to ^Sustain our ~love~. 

Hmmm.  Only ^One ~problem~.  For ^Simple wounds, we are probably ^Still ~healthy~ so to ^Find ~love~ ^Again is not difficult with ~practice~.  But for ^Deeply ^Complex wounds, or wounds that we ^Receive ^When ~SICK~, this ^Concept may ^Depart just ^Like ~water~ on concrete in the hot sun.  ^What we once knew becomes just a word.  And its ~definition~ becomes a bunch of nonsense.  Any ~abuse~ may ^Cause many of the ^BEST concepts to ^Become just ~words~.  Sometimes we ^Notice this ~lack~ and can confront this ~depth~ of suffering and sometimes we don't even ^Know the ~hollow~ in our ~mind~ which does ^Now ^Refuse to shine. 

^As I said, after a heavy or inescapable burden of ~abuse~ we ^Win-or-lose our ~ability~ to ^Forgive.  Sometimes this ~loss~ is ~long-term~.  I ^Wish it was ^Okay. 

This ~result~ from ~abuse~ is ~normal~.  But can anyone ^Tell me ^Why ~abuse~ is ~normal~?  In ~depth~ of ~regret~, we can ^Accept the ~truth~ of it.  However, its ~presence~ we cannot except.  Both we ^Who ^Offend and others for sake of ~survival~ may ^Tend to suffer this ~loss~, ~as~ though ~force~ of ^One ~mind~ upon another flattens both in the dimension of ^What is perhaps its most ~beautiful~ ^Now or in potential.  Just ~as~ there is ^No recipe to ^Love ^Properly, ^How could we ever seriously ^Believe a ~mind~ could ^Receive ~harm~ thusly and ^Still have ^Sufficient ~clarity~ to ^Know its ~PATH~ to ^Recover?  Without ~forgiveness~ we can't ^Fail ^Properly and without a ^Fail we can't ^Heal in ~full~.  I ^Wish I was ^Okay. 

For those ^Who have a ~love~ to ^Give, ~forgiveness~ is the ^First and foremost ~foundation~ to ^Maintain.  For ^BEST ~results~, freely ^Win-or-lose any ~chance~ for ~forgiveness~ in ~privacy~ and ~respect~ to every ~mind~ in our purview.  ^Forgiveness is a ^Concept of concepts of concepts, and I am convinced it is second only to ^Love.  It is so hard to ^Define ^Well.  ^Please ^Forgive my ~lack~ ~as~ I ^Provide this ~information~. 

^As ^Soon ~as~ we ^Find or ^Hope that we can, ^Try.  ^Forgive ^First and ^Last, ^Such ~as~ in the morning, in the evening, before we ^Start to ^Apply ourselves, after we ^End ~work~, after we ^End an ~attempt~ or after we ^Quit an ~application~. 

^When we have a ~roadblock~ to ~forgiveness~, ^Try to ^Focus on ^What we can ^Accept and ^Try to ^Ignore it ^Where we can't ^Accept it.  A ~MESS~ ensues but ^Remember it is our ~immunity~ at ~play~ so there is ~hope~.  After all, we once were little beans ^Who grew up in remarkable and mysterious ways.  It is not ~as~ though the ~instructions~ to ^Grow from beans were unwritten by the ~hurt~.  Yet it can ^Feel ~as~ ^Such and far worse.  ^When we have felt it, it is ~what-it-is~.  ^Long-term.  ^Okay?  And it is ^Okay too ^When we have ^No ~experience~ with that.  And I ^Hope many of us ^Never ^Experience that ~depth~ of ^Needless suffering. 

Once we have that ~experience~ to any degree, we may ^Look and ^Wait for a ~change~ in times of ~strength~ and ^Trust our ~immunity~ long ~enough~ to have ~hope~ once ^Again.  Perhaps the ~BEST~ is ^Still in us in ~wait~ to ^Be born out ~as~ before.  ^Please ^Believe it. 

^When others have a ~roadblock~ to ~forgiveness~, in ~compassion~ of a ~buddy~ to them we may ^Imagine while ~STRONG~ ^What their ~mind~ once was: a ^Beautiful meadow, a mountain of ~strength~, a mighty river with many gentle streams and a ~light~ to others; delightful in so so many ways.  The ~BEST~ is ^Still in there.  ^Please ^Believe it.  Do to others ~as~ though they were the ~BEST~ they once were or the ~BEST~ they may yet ^Be.  ^Believe the ~BEST~.  Others ~as~ ~part~ of their healing may ^Need us to ^See ~good~ in them with an unshakeable conviction ^Irrespective of all ~evil~ ^Now ~found~ in them or around them.  Once we can ^See it, ^Remember to ^Share.  And ^Please ^Share ^Now and ^Give ^Slowly, without ~force~. 

We should ^Share only with ~humility~ and ~respect~ and anytime it is ~prudent~ and in ~self-control~.  ^Please dare to ^Help ~one-another~ and to ^Forgive ~as~ ^Well ~as~ we can, even ^When we only ^Cower or do so with our eyes shut and hands ~low~.  ^Accept a ^Free ~offer~ of nourishment, of necessary comforts and of visits in ~gratitude~ of a ^Prudent ~mind~.  ^Likewise, ^Make a ^Free ~offer~ of our ~food~ and ~drink~, of our ~home~ and comforts and of our support and ^Friendship.  ^As we ^Apply to it, ^Seek ~privacy~ in ^How we ^Share. 

Anytime with ~caution~ about the nature of the ~need~. 

^When in ~tune~ to ~surprise~. 

^As a ~buddy~, ^When we ^Notice a ~lack~ or ~excess~ of ~sorrow~, we may ^Forgive and ^Sorrow with ~one-another~ in a ~space~ of ~trust~. 

Anytime in ~motivation~ to ^Restore.  Anytime in ~focus~ of ~health~ or ~strength~ within our ~life~. 

To ^Oppose ~lack~ or ~excess~ of ~opposition~. 

Do so in ^Simple ~respect~ to ^Forgive although in ~presence~ of ~anger~, ~fear~, ~guilt~ or ~desire~.  For ~example~, ^Forgiveness doesn't ^Mask our ~anger~.  Yet, ^Forgiveness may ^Help ourselves or others to ^Endure ~anger~ until we can ^Heal from it. 

Do so only ^When in ~tune~ to ~surprise~, ~hate~ or ~happiness~.  For ~example~, we don't ^Want to ^Forgive ^When we ^Feel ~surprise~ in ~regard~ of ~one-another~ or our ~environment~.  Yet once we ^Restore ~harmony~, we may ^Forgive freely ~as~ a ~mechanism~ to ^Alleviate the ~emotion~.  We ^Mask next ~steps~ ^When we ^Forgive without ~caution~ or we ^Unsnarl ^Irrespective of ^What we ^Feel.  That is ^Okay!  We can ^Overcome to do ^Better.